Wednesday, April 9, 2014

Home Again...

Stay-at-Home Mom Part II

Well my turn at going back to work was short lived...hubby went back to work and is commuting almost an hour away and with his hours and my hours daycare just wasn't an option.

I am so happy to be at home again but now it is a matter of finding some income while working at home. Everyone always suggests taking in people's kids but I am just not in a space where that would be good for them (no fenced yard, busy street) that and I have a hard enough time keeping my own daughter busy.

So what we've been up to...we spent the last two weeks being sick and recovering. DD was suppose to go have her dental work done but that got rescheduled until July because the anesthesiologist doesn't want to do when she is under two. We are still working on getting DD to talk more but she likes to do more actions and sounds then talking, lol. When I tell her to say the word she just smiles at me and laughs so at least I know she understands me. I am not going to worry too much yet and hopefully she will come around soon. With me being home I am going to try and take more opportunities to get her our socializing and maybe that will get her talking more.

In sad news...

Hubby's mom passed away in February...he found her and is still trying to deal with it. He is constantly worried about his own mortality and leaving us behind. I don't know how much help I am because it is not a topic I want to think about often. The good thing that came out of it is that he is back in contact with some of his family and we will hopefully be spending Easter with his sister.

My Family Drama...

Well my dad and step-mom came to the funeral to show support which they did for hubby but me I got a lecture...I was truly pissed off and still kind of am. I got told how I am doing my daughter a disservice cause she doesn't go out, so they think cause we don't go to their house. DD did not want to go to them and played shy because she doesn't know them, I mentioned that they were always more then welcome to stop by (this is the first time we have seen them since just after DD birthday in June) but my dad says he doesn't want to come sit around my place there is more to do at his place yet all we do is sit around when I have visited him and I told him that.

I don't know what more to do with them, I want them to be a part of her life but I can't deal with being lectured at every opportunity. I can't believe it is come down to this, they won't be a part of her life if we don't go out there, and this stubbornness is why they don't have a relationship with their other grand kids.

Co-Sleeping

Alright I am just going to put it out there...we co-sleep with our daughter and we are fine with it. If your not okay with it then that is your problem. I am so sick of anytime I say I am having issues with DD's sleep pattern everyone always says "is she still sleeping in your bed?"

First off that is not what is the issue, she sleeps fine in our bed it's just getting her to nap that is the issue it's the fact that she would rather nap at 4 pm (or later) and then stay up all night. Why does her sleeping in our bed have to be the cause or to blame? I feel like it is just another battle of parenthood that I am having to deal with and frankly I am getting sick of it.

If it's not the co-sleeping, it is the breastfeeding and if not that it's that she is very attached to me and my spouse. I know I had all these fantastic ideas of how things would be, but there not and at the end of the day my baby is happy and healthy, she would warm up to people more if she saw them more often and if they just gave her time to warm up to them rather then just writing her off and calling her a "sucky baby".

Do I just surround myself with overly opinionated people or is this a normal trial of parenthood?